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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your proposal sounds totally reasonable, and attempts to seek accomodation between interests.

But theirs seems unreasonable and doesn't take you into account -- really, they get access to your HOSPITAL ROOM no matter how you feel?  They MUST stay overnight and you have to be relegated to the nursery?

I think you need to have a short session with a marriage counselor to work this out, stat.  It's really worrying.  [/quote]

This is clearly based on a lack of understanding of post-birth reality

1.  hospital rooms are small!  There is not space for people to come hang out in the room for hours and you (and baby) need to be resting.  There is no resting in a hospital room when there are 5 additional people in the room (DH + both sets of in-laws).  On the positive side, there also isn't a place to sit in a hospital room for 5 additional people.  And if you doze off, I want to hope that people will get the cue to leave the room and let you sleep.  As a PP suggested, get the nurses to help with this -- they are very good at clearing a room for a patient when you need them to.

2.  In the days following the birth, you will be breastfeeding NON-STOP.  DH needs to understand that you WILL NOT accept being relegated to the nursery for 24 hours a day in the week after the birth.  You are not a servant!  If you don't have a large enough house for you to be in one room while everyone else is in another room, then kick people out.  I also agree with the PP that suggested you let it all hang out.  I know this is hard if you are private.  But, if you are BFing constantly, and you aren't having too much trouble getting baby to latch, it is nice to have someone hanging out in the room with you while you BF.  On the other hand, if you are having trouble getting the baby to latch, nothing will make it harder than feeling like you are being watched/judged while you are trying to figure it out.  Suggestion:  come up with a list of things that you will need post-birth and make sure you don't have enough of them in the house.   Side-snap tees; maxi-pads; sitz bath; extra covers for the changing table; a different nursing pillow; whatever.  It helps to not be fully prepared!  If you need to get people out of the house, then send them to purchase these things for you.  One. At. A. Time. [/quote]

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