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I apologize for my awful pp but I’m just so frustrated with my DH. I’ve also had to deal with my 80 yr old mother who’s lost her mobility/balance. I moved her into assisted living and that only frustrated me more. Why? Because her new friends in their 90s are in better shape than she is.  Dancing, able to shower, dress themselves etc..  My mother was sedentary and smoked like a chimney her whole life.  I tried so hard to get her to exercise thru the years. I enrolled her in silver sneakers, walked with her at the mall, bought her a treadmill.  Nothing ever stuck.  Overall her health is remarkable but she’s lost her ability to live independently, which has depressed and frustrated her. She gets angry at me for moving her into an AL, so I have to deal with that guilt.

I think having to deal with my mothers recent transition has made me hypersensitive to the effects of living an extremely sedentary lifestyle. My DH is a year younger than me and I thought we would age similarly. Unfortunately he is aging extremely poorly because of his own doing. His aches and pains are the results of not moving. He doesn’t have arthritis, no accidents and his health is good overall, so I can’t give him a pass.  Like I said, I start getting aches and pains if I don’t move too.

The fact I have the 2 people I love the most in my life, who have lost and losing their quality of life is very frustrating because it’s 100% preventable.  Am I wrong? [/quote]

Not at all. I have no idea why some posters took your thread so poorly. I'd be frustrated too!

That said, I'm not sure there's much you can do... [/quote]

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