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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't/wouldn't serve alcohol to teens. Ever.

I know many do it, and I disagree with the practice, even though I drink on a regular basis as an adult (responsibly).
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Why do parents do this?  [/quote]

According to my BIL, they are going to do it anyways, so he wants to provide a safe place for them to drink, and to build tolerance before college.[/quote]

This is the line of thinking you will hear.   These people tell themselves if teens don't drink in high school they will get to college and go completely off the rails because they "don't know how to drink".  It is the stupidest logic ever.  Someone just said this to me last week.  I said I didn't drink in high school and drank in college and was completely fine.

Is very dumb and illegal in VA at least to supply them the alcohol.  You can give it to your own kids legally but not other people's kids.  God forbid anything truly terrible happen too.  [/quote]

[b]I do t think the logic is off..every person who ended up with alcohol poisoning,  or blacked out drunk in the toilet or graduated up to hard drugs I knew in college had very strict parents who never allowed any drinking or staying out late[/b]. But I still wouldn't take the risk of giving it to other people's teens
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That's nice, but actual studies done with large numbers of participants tell us otherwise.  In other words, the theory doesn't hold up under scrutiny.  It's just made-up.[/quote]

I doubt that. Alcohol effects, limits, etc are a novel experience and like any other novel experience,  there's a learning curve. I would not like for my child to figure out that curve at a frat party at 17 with no adults within reach but you do you.[/quote]

Why is your child going to be in college at 17?

I figured out how to drink appropriately without my mommy there in college.  It was fine.[/quote]

It isn't that uncommon., probably less so now, but the kids with august, sept, oct birthdays are sometimes 17 when starting college. [/quote]

I was 17 until the end of Nov. when I started fancy, expensive, far away college, but my parents knew I had the ability to make good decisions. If they had any doubt, expensive college would have been off the table and I would have been starting at the local commuter college until they knew I had learned to "adult."

Parents these days don't want to take away the "college experience" from their kids, but it's an expensive investment. They don't want to risk their kid flaming out due to heavy drinking, partying, drug use so they convince themselves that allowing the kids to experience all of this in the high school age will inoculate them from making these mistakes in college.

I think their logic is suspect, but [b]hey, it's their kids, so who cares[/b]?[/quote]

People care because it spills over to their kids.  They go hang out at John's house, where his parents look the other way when beer goes missing, or a trash bin full of empties arrives at the end of the night.  No decision is made in a vacuum. [/quote]

Sure you are right, but you won't convince these parents. They have "long term" timelines for their kids. Kids exposed to alcohol at my house &lt;check&gt;, etc. Any other kids around their child are just collateral damage. They'll say that these kids parents should have been looking out for them.[/quote]

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