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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. In the future I will start all posts in the special needs forum with “this is a post in the special needs forum about a child with special needs.” Or maybe that won’t matter.

FWIW the people who get super offended when she corrects them in public are [b]the know-it-alls who are wrong about something. . .whiiiiiich kind of reminds me of some of the folks responding to my question here. [/b]This whole DCUM experience is making me care a whole lot less about whether these strangers are offended by my child, who is honestly trying her best in a world not built for her. So this thread has been helpful. Thanks, all.[/quote]

Who, of course, might well be just like your child and have some social challenges, inherent rigidity, and honestly trying their best in a world not built for them. If they are worthy of critique, then your child will be, as well, when she is an adult.

Or how do you want people to respond to your child when she is a know-it-all adult? Should we maybe be granting everyone grace here, and not just one person?[/quote]

ffs. this isn’t about granting grace. it is about our basic responsibility to teach our kids how to be safe and independent. going up to strangers and making unexpected or inappropriate or challenging comments is a behavior that is not OK. at 6 most people probably interpret it as harmless. but at 10 (which will come sooner than you think) it will be more dysfunctional and potentially dangerous. there are ways you can teach a child to stop behaviors- please read up on it. [/quote]

Ignoring the behavior at that age is going to do far more long term harm to your child than help.  Ignoring or justifying it is a simple solution for the parent but part of parenting is working with your child, despite their challenges on how to interact with others and how to survive living in the world we live in as others may not understand them or care.  Most of use here have kids with challenges or special needs and we do get it but we found to address all behaviors early on helped even though it was the not so fun part of parenting as they will only learn if you teach them.  Its not ok for a child to say mean things to anyone else and they are going to struggle with friendships and other relationships if the behavior continues.  Its ok to correct an adult with a mistake (like the math example) but its not ok to listen to conversations and make mean comments even if your child is correct in their thinking.  Some things don't need to be shared.[/quote]

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