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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think it’s heredity. More than likely, when parents don’t agree on childrearing, kids take the easy way out. [/quote]

Between stuff like ADHD, which are very inheritable, and ambition and general attitude, where you learn by example, the family you were born into and raised in, determines a lot of the outcomes.  [/quote]

Didn't read the whole thread, but Carl Jung once wrote that "The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parents."

https://www.triplemoonpsychotherapy.com/blog/greatestburden[/quote]

I used to find things like that interesting and intellectually challenging to think about. Now that I'm a parent, I really wonder if any of that crap -- er, stuff -- actually applies. So much of life as a parent is just trying to survive from one day to the next. Just SURVIVE. Is the unlived life of the parent really there, out of sight, influencing the child? Or is it just an integral part of the parent?[/quote]

Unless you are living paycheck to paycheck, or have a dysfunctional marriage, you shouldn't be operating in survival mode as a parent once you are in the elementary school years. If you are still in this mode, then of course it is influencing the kid in a negative way.[/quote]

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