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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I came downstairs ready to go to a friend’s bbq with DH and our two DC. When DH saw me he flipped out. I was wearing a yellow JCREW off the shoulder top and jeans. He told me I looked like an insect because of the top being bright yellow, and said to our boys, “doesn’t mom look like a bumble bee”. He asked me to change and I said no. He said he would go without me then, which he did (and took the kids).

He called me several times during the bbq and I didn’t answer. I think he feels bad now. I left the house so I wasn’t home when he got back. What would you do? [/quote]

Was it yellow top and black pants?  That probably could make you look like a bumble bee.  But yellow top and blue jeans would actually look nice.

OK?   Why is so angry and why are you so quick to take offense? Dude!!!! You actually have bigger resentments simmering.  And the fact that you have two small kids - oh, oh, oh! This is the shit phase of parenting. Most stressful.  You both need to simmer down and learn to communicate better. [/quote]

Yeah, no. Did you miss the part where he left without her?[/quote]

Yeah, no, she did not change right? He then called several times and she did not pick up the phone, right? Neither of them are making good decisions. They both sound immature and their feelings are getting hurt quite a lot. All of which is fine by itself. Unfortunately, they have also produced two kids and this can and will impact them. [/quote]

"She did not change" ... are you for real? You think a grown woman should change her clothes on her husband's command? WTAF?[/quote]

She doesn't have to change but compromise goes a long way for a lasting marriage.[/quote]

This is not the kind of thing that should be the subject of compromise. You compromise about substantive things that both partners have a stake in-- how you spend the family's income, where you send your kids to school, whose family you spend the holidays with, the schedule for weekend activities. The clothes someone choose to wear to a BBQ are not that. It's controlling to do otherwise. [/quote]

Ehhhh - if my husband put on something I really hated, I might ask him to change. I'd be judicious about it, and wouldn't compare him to an insect, but I could see myself making that request. My mother has certainly told me dad - not asked but told - him to go change plenty of times. She's thrown out some of his clothes, even.[/quote]

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