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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP are you Asian by any chance?

What about your DH's family? Why can't your husband take off from work? He has a right to 12 weeks for FMLA.

For the most part, none of my friends in DC had family help for an extended period of time. We did have help immediately after birth (1-2 weeks). After that, most of us managed with the help of our friends and husbands. Frankly, my family wasn't all that helpful (and same with most people)! Most family just tends to get in the way and creates more people that you have to take care of.[/quote]

Nope, not Asian. DH's family is not in the US either and his parents are elderly. We know our rights regarding the leave but unfortunately DH's company is not family friendly and if he takes such leave they'll fire him. He's been looking for local jobs and interviews just started happening, we're hopeful that he'll get a 9-5er soon.

We move a lot because of his job and there are absolutely no friends we can count on around here. I even had to hire someone to be on call when I go into labor because we don't have anyone to come stay with DC1 when it happens.

When I wrote the thread I had just learned that my mom was not coming, I was really upset and needed to get it out of my chest. For her I have to give the impression it's no big deal, she was already so upset, I can't imagine how much worse it would be if both of us were crying on the phone. Anyway, it's DCUM after all so I can't complain about all the nastiness thrown around...  :roll: [/quote]

Your husband's company absolutely cannot fire him for taking leave under FMLA. If they do, they will have a huge lawsuit on their hands. That being said, your husband can do the 'reasonable' thing and use his vacation time with you.

I thought you said you were having a c-section? You can plan the labor that way. If not, you don't have daycare or other care such as a babysitter? You could ask the babysitter to be on-call. What about a neighbor with kids? Sounds like you live a very lonely life, sorry OP. :([/quote]

Yeah, it's been really difficult lately... They're not going to fire him exactly for that but they make it so hard and they throw threats that make us understand what's going on. DH has been home sick with a lung infection for 10 days on sick leave and they keep calling him. His manager even asked him to be on a conference call when he had absolutely no voice to talk and demanded him to use the chat to respond to the technical questions. It's horrible! I can't wait to have this job change thing figured out.

We move a lot and it's hard to make friendships... Don't we see people here all the time saying they've been living in the area for X amount of years and can't make friends? I guess it happens more often than we think. We stay in hotels or corporate housing most of the time so there are no neighbors. When we finally connect with people we can't have them over and I feel bad to accept going to people's houses and can't reciprocate the invitations... The mother's helper has been such a blessing in our lives! I'm glad to know I will be able to count on her when DC2 comes along. She's such a sweet young lady...

My baby is still breech, I was going for a VBAC but now we don't know. It's been a blur, I'm almost in a point that I feel like scheduling a C-section to get it all over with ASAP... Well, thanks for letting me vent. It feels better already...[/quote]

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