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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He sounds deeply entitled, immature and ungrateful. I would start looking for someone who wants an equal partner and not a nurse.[/quote]

Amazing.  :roll:

Reminder that DCUM women often say that women are the more "empathetic" sex and that men are trash because they are likely to abandon their wives if they become seriously ill.[/quote]

That’s not something DCUM says, it’s something statistics say

[b][Reading what women post on DCUM Relationships gives me very serious doubt about those "statistics". Total lack of empathy, total lack of interest in anything other than "what is my husband doing for me [i]right now[/i]."][/b]

OP fed and sheltered her spouse while he underwent chemo. Now he’s (after the fact) saying she didn’t do enough and wants to punish her by leaving her without money when he dies. Meanwhile she never restricted his access to her money while he lived. [/quote]

"I fed and sheltered you for years and never restricted your access to my money, but now you say I didn't do enough and you want to punish me financially" is pretty much every divorced husband ever. Cry me a river.[/quote]

Right that’s why there was an article to back up the statistics. Not your feefees.

I don’t think the OP should cry, I think she should consider her support for her husband a sunk cost, stop working immediately (while preserving her network for later) and file for divorce herself.  If the people who think she wasn’t financially supporting him are correct, she won’t have any alimony to pay. If the people who assume she was are correct, she will have reduced alimony based on her new financial situation, and her children will be taken care of by their fathers life insurance when he passes. Win-win. [/quote]

Doesn’t matter who files first. All assets will be split.

If he’s smart he’ll also have a 5 year true up clause signed off by a forensic accountant for any deferred income she pushes out for post-divorce. [/quote]

Filing first isn’t about getting more, it’s about taking away the power her DH believes he has by telling her she’s not on the life insurance. Maybe he’s also not invited to his birthday party! He seems incredibly attention-seeking and the best way to deal with people like that is just to call their bluff and move on.

He can ask for whatever clauses he wants. If he wasn’t a dependent, he won’t get alimony and if he was, he’s going to be dead soon anyway or this whole life insurance thing is just a dramatic temper tantrum. Short-term alimony. [/quote]

Dream on. That’s not at all what’s going on with gray divorces.

Besides, at that age most “demanding job” careers are pulling in $1M+ gross a year so a $1-2M life insurance payout split between a spouse and adult kids is peanuts. And no one has any idea what the ill, recovered spouse pulls in. Either way, all marital assets will be split 50/50.
Op sounds like a chicken $hit who wouldn’t step back from “work” during a family crisis. Their coworkers prob think they’re a jack@$$ as well. Quite the role model. [/quote]

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