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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think what is forgotten is that it takes 2 to make a baby
He might not be able to give much, but that does not mean that he can give what he likes when he feels like it.
He will have to take extra student loans to support the kid, or maybe study part time. We are not talking just about money
He will need to help the mother out. Take the baby for weekends and some doctors appointments, do household chores, fetch the kid from daycare etc.
They might be able to qualify for child care vouchers, and the baby could go on chip. Things will work out. And babies are wonderful. This is not necessarily a disaster
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No, of course the father of the baby must do what he can, not just when he feels like it.  BUT the parents of the girlfriend seem to be looking at the boyfriend's parents and expecting that they will help out financially.   they all need to have VERY realistic expectations of what kind of financial support will be possible.

People make decisions about whether to continue a pregnancy in part based on how hard it will be to raise a child and what the financial implications of that child will be.   I know that if I had gotten pregnant at age 16, I would have terminated the pregnancy because having a child at such a young age would not have likely led to poverty for me (not finishing my education, etc.)  Or, I might have decided to give the baby up for adoption to a fmaily that had the resources to take care of it.

I don't think a girl who has to make this decision should have unrealistic expectations about what financial support may come her way, should she decide to continue the pregnancy.  The boy who got her pregnant does not have much of a job and  for all she knows, might not finish college.   So his support might not be all that much, for quite a while.   Minimum wage earnings, perhaps.   If that's OK with her, then it's OK with her -- and obviously she will get a job too -- while hopefully continuing to go to school, through taking out loans, etc.[/quote]

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