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[quote=Anonymous][quote]He keeps saying that I don’t need to make as much money as I do, that I can live just fine on much less. While that’s true now, I’m looking ahead to what I need to save and invest to support myself 40 years from now. [/quote]

Man, OP, this just gets worse and worse. He makes less than you, wants you to move to NC where you will also make less money, and finally, seems entitled to decide what "living just fine" looks like. Coupled with your comment that he's "really into the retired lifestyle", I picture you landing in a depressing area of NC, living on a fixed income, and having no say in how it's spent.

Look men are weird with money. I make what you make and my BF is a GS15 fed. He claims it's not an issue and what I'm learning is that it is. Why? At first I thought it was just an insecurity thing; what I've realized over time is that money means different things to us; how and what we spend it on is a direct reflection of our income stream(s). I don't know where he and I will land but I've learned to really respect how significant this very thing can be. In your case, your BF actually sounds controlling in a way that would genuinely worry me. Like he can't even see what well-being looks like for you, let alone protect it.

I'm sorry. Sounds like you love this guy. I love my guy too. But I don't know that it will work out for us and I may have to face that. I know it's hard. But if your gut is talking to you about this, you should listen.[/quote]

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