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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Yes, our son will have my FIL’s last name.  I think that’s enough too.

I really do hate FIL’s name because of a really bad association in my past.  I never called my FIL by his first name either, I always called him Pops.

Thanks to those who responded.  I’m going to stick to my gut on this.  I don’t want to hate my son’s first or middle name. [/quote]

Good call, OP. This is your first test as a parent. You passed.

There are going to be many, many more moments like this when other people are going to try and push you in directions that don't work for you or for your kid. Everyone thinks the way they raised their kids and their parenting choices are "the way to do it." Even people who haven't parented a young child in decades will INSIST that you give birth like they did, feed like they did, sleep train like they did, name the kid what they want, or whatever. The pushiness comes from every direction - even total strangers - and is especially pronounced in the early years. Learning how to gracefully handle these moments is your first hurdle as a soon-to-be parent.

Good luck and congrats on the new baby![/quote]

I don’t think OP should give her child a name that’s repugnant to her.  She never called her FIL by his actual name, she found it so repellant.  
But not all parenting advice is wrong. As the parent of a teen, I will never forgive myself for not listening to my younger sibling’s advice relating to my DC’s education.  
Question of striking the right balance...
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Not all parenting advice is wrong, but all attempts to butt in to someone naming their child to dictate a name you prefer are wrong. The only reason to insert yourself is if the name is truly damaging, and even then it doesn’t mean you get to choose instead. [/quote]

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