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[quote=Anonymous]I can’t figure out if the dad actually lives at the beach house or just goes there frequently for vacation, but regardless, I do understand OPs frustration. We have a similar property set up with in-laws who have owned a beach condo forever. We bought one in the same complex in part because it was hard to get time with four families sharing it. I think at first my in-laws assumed we would no longer use theirs much since we had our own, but we made a point of letting them know we would be asking to use it regularly as our place is not large enough for our family and any guest family we might invite with more than 3 people.

Over the years we’ve had it, we’ve arranged to vacation at the same time as MIL and FIL or with one or both sets of DH’s siblings and kids. We’ve also stayed in the original condo many times while our friends stayed in ours. Sometimes we let DH’s siblings use ours if they want to vacation with their friends. Arranging these get togethers has made it clear to everyone that we still see ourselves as future  part owners of the original condo, and sharing ours with the extended family works to build good will. If I were OP, I’d start by trying to do something similar if the dad is ok with it. Like maybe planning a family reunion with the west coast brother with folks from each family in each beach place. We love and respect all our extended family though, unlike OP. [/quote]

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