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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not generally a dive bar fan, don’t play pool, & my first dates have generally been for [b]drinks somewhere nice or dinner.[/b]  And [b]my dates always pay,[/b] etc. I’m pretty good at screening so never had a horrible date.

But I would still prefer this idea than a coffee date, which is pretty much an automatic decline for me.  Generic, [b]cheap, something I’d do with a colleague[/b] I barely no ugh.

Don’t go if you don’t want but maybe the guy is trying to come up with something different than the usually dinner date.  Don’t read into it… it’s a date, maybe you’ll think he’s a big no in person, maybe you’ll have a ton of fun & y[b]our next date will be an expensive dinner somewhere[/b].

Have you never met someone that you just have fun with EVERYWHERE?  I had an amazing date during the beginning of Covid where we walked my dog together, he was charming and fun.

Live a little, try new things [/quote]

Despite ending with the "we just walked my dog and it was a great date" stuff, the taste for expensive meals out, plus the disdain for the "cheap" option of meeting for coffee, pretty much show us your priorities. You're encouraging OP to try pool not because it's different and fun, truly, but because maybe the next date "will be an expensive dinner somewhere."

And your focus on "my dates always pay" is...antique. At best.

You also fail to understand that a "coffee date" is not about being cheap. It's about meeting someone, often someone you've never met before if it's from online dating, in a public place where you can converse and also have the ability to leave very easily if things are not going well, the other person gives off a strange vibe, or you just are not clicking at conversation. THAT, and not the "cheapness," is the point. It's much harder simply to bow out of those expensive first date dinners you seem to prefer.

I suspect you'd come back to protest that since you are, in your own estimation, "pretty good at screening," [i]you[/i] don't need do do initial vetting on cheap coffee dates and you deserve great meals on the very first date. Super for you. Not at all helpful for OP, other than you advise her to go ahead with the pool date as a down payment on that expensive date next time....[/quote]

DP, but what?[/quote]

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