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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here -

No, my name is not on the mortgage but it is on the title. DH and I have always had separate finances. He pays for everything and I don’t pay for any bills. I have a small, side job that pays for any of my personal things but otherwise DH handles and pays for everything on our joint credit card.

OP here, the house was valued around 750, but needs about 200K in repairs. We paid 450.

We don’t have any children together, I have an 18 year old in college. This is both our second marriage. We’ve been together for 10 years and our in our 40’s. [/quote]

I'll be a little less harsh because it seems obvious that you have massive communications issues with your husband, and also that there's not a lot of equality in this marriage.

OP, I'd urge you to figure out what you want, like truly want, and figure out how to communicate that to your husband. I agree with the other posters that living in your IL's house with all their furniture and "stuff" is a no go. At the very least there needs to be an adjustment, and maybe that adjustment will encourage them to move out - as in - over the next couple of months they need to downsize to a guest room and maybe one other room, you get to paint, put in new carpet, etc. If everyone balks at that, then start looking at your options.

I'd speak with a lawyer about your status as an owner of the house, and how that plays out in the event of a divorce. I think you need a FT job for a couple of reasons - to support yourself and to start insulating against becoming the full-time caregiver for your in-laws, because this is what sounds like is happening.[/quote]

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