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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Woman here. I always insisted on splitting the check, but I have found I’m an outlier. Sadly, even those who offer (I had to truly insist) will still expect you to pay. And lots of women will never go out with you again if you don’t.

I think it’s crappy, but it’s the reality. [/quote]

I am a 50+ yrs woman and I have always paid for myself when I was single.

Here is what I taught my now  20-something single DD -
- Always pay for your share  on a date. Allowing any man to pay for your meal is a privilege you should bestow only to a person who has earned it.   Also, it cheapens you to have a person you are not interested in to pay for you in any way. 
- Takes your own car/arrange for your  own transportation.  
-  First two dates should be low-key (grab a coffee, share a pizza), in public places in the daytime, for some casual and fun activity (concerts, plays, games) etc.   
- There is no rule that says "sex on third date". Sex happens only when both people are ready or it is ok for it to not happen for a long time.  Many men think that paying for a date entitles them to some sexual favors from a woman.
- Your parents can very comfortably afford to fund your meals, social life and normal student lifestyle. So use that privilege and keep yourself and your self-esteem protected. Do not be beholden to anyone and do not take that mental burden on yourself.

DD remains our responsibility  until she is herself financially emancipated and settled in a good career. [/quote]

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