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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one is actually talking about the hardest questions here.

Potential social isolation can be solved.

But if you are alone and become cognitively impaired, who will administer your finances? If you get physically sick, who will be your advocate in the medical system and potentially make decisions for you?

Finding someone who will do these things and act in what is truly your best interest, with thought and care and competence, is the hard part, imo.

Why is no one talking about this? [/quote]

OP again.
You hit the nail on the head.

As I stated in my first post, my DH and I are childless. We will never have grandchildren.
DH is 9 years older than me.
Potential social isolation can be solved, as you say. Either we move into a 55+ community later in life (even if we had wanted to age in place) or we hire people to take care of us. But we don't have the financial resources to pay for aides and other helpers 24/7 for years and years.

What happens when one of us dies and the other becomes cognitively impaired? Even in an appropriate facility you would need a trusted person to make all kinds of decisions for you.

And who will be with you to keep you company and hold your hand in your final days? I don't want to die with just medical staff (strangers) around me. The thought alone is hideous.[/quote]

OP I am confused. Here is a direct quote from you on this post:

"This is OP here.

Perhaps to some readers my post came across in a way I didn't want it to. [b]I do not expect my extended family to take care of me and/or my husband when we're old. [/b]They wouldn't be able to anyway because of distance - they live a 6-7 hours drive away."

It sounds like you said you don't expect these family members to be there for you, but ultimately that is what you want.

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No, she is lamenting the fact that there is no one in her life who will be there for her.

She is not specifically talking about these relatives. [/quote]

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