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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think he should have known by now, 3 months in, that he wanted to be with you and should have already gradually stopped seeing the other women. This doesn’t feel great to me. [/quote]

I think it's the height of immaturity to initiate an exclusivity talk and then, when the other person agrees, punish them because it hurts your feelings that they were not actually being exclusive before the talk happens.  OP is too old for this mindset.[/quote]

OP: I'm not punishing him for not being exclusive. I was dating other people also. He told me he was not serious with either of them, so I guess I don't understand why a phone call is not sufficient?[/quote]

[b]Because he's not a jerk?  Because he already had dates planned with them and now is going to use that meeting to end things?  Because he knows them better than you do and he has his reasons for why he wouldn't want to be intentionally hurtful to people that he likes and has enjoyed getting to know?[/quote][/b]

Uh, I can say as a woman that I would much prefer receiving a phone call from someone I had been casually dating, than having to go out with them one last time only to awkwardly sit there while he told me he needed to move on, had found someone else. etc. [/quote]

I would too (immediate PP) but I can tell you that every time I have expressed that on these boards I have been told that I am classless, a symptom of the death of courtesy, and a sad victim of hookup culture.

OP and presumably these other ladies are in their 40s, so I am surprised to see this guy's game plan (have coffee, say goodbye) is now a sign of the worst possible character in a person, when it's usually the other way around.

But. . . DCUM.[/quote]

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