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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s fine if he doesn’t want to “play” with them but hopefully he has things he *does* like to do with them. I’m the reader/ cards and board game parent here. Spouse doesn’t like any of those -  but he plays sports, washes cars, builds things, gardens with them. I think it’s fine to know the types of things you enjoy and do those things with your kids. [/quote]

I totally agree that playing is unnecessary and that this was much less common in our parents and grandparents’ generations.

It might be more productive to come up with some suggested activities your husband could do with the kids that don’t involve playing - reading, hiking, sports, archery, listening to music or going to a concert together, chores (gardening, painting a fence, handyman tasks), cooking.

My dad and I used to just enjoy walks after dinner or go to the library together and read on their sofas side by side.  You can enjoy a parent’s attention and quality time without playing, and there’s no guilt about not being the type of parent who wants to play.[/quote]

Would it be ok with you if s friend , a boyfriend or your husband always refused to do things you liked and were meaningful for you and only wanted to spend time with you if it involved something  they liked?

Probably not. So why is that attitude excused in parents ( especially fathers) towards children.  ?

I'm not saying you have to be the great zucchini or whatever but  you you really can't be bothered to spend a few minutes playing trains tea party or a card game with your kids because it's just torture you really need to get the hell over yourself[/quote]

As a counterpoint, I’d never make my SO go somewhere or do something with me if they didn’t like it or want to.[/quote]

And you have missed the beauty of a relationship.[/quote]

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