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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My preference is to adopt an infant. Is this realistic at age 46? Fully prepared to pay for a private placement and birth mother's expenses.  [/quote]

I don't think you are too old and it is realistic.
But I am going to be honest that older first time mother's can struggle and I think the struggle is harder for single moms. You have to go from a lifetime of doing for yourself first to a quick change to doing for someone else first and the truth is you might not get to consider yourself for quite a while.  In the baby stages it is ok because you expect it but toddlerhood and preschool years can hit hard.  It doesn't mean you should become a mom though it just means that you might need more support than you are anticipating.

I think you also have some outdated ideas around adoption. Paying for private placements and birth mother expenses sound like something from an 80's lifetime movie :-)  Today, these are par for the course and you might end up paying them multiple times if a situation falls through.  Paying expenses is dictated by law and doesn't happen in every state.  Paying expenses doesn't guarantee a result and if you do pay such money, you are giving the money freely and can't ask for it back should a woman decide not to place. 
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