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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Do you all think her friends are going to tell her to not give me a chance?[/quote]

This is the stupidest thing you've said. The stupidest. "Her friends"? Why do you assume she wouldn't think for herself? She should trust her own judgement. I think you have a lack of respect for her and it's showing. Women in general perhaps?[/quote]

Sorry, I was just referring to the responses above that say a woman shouldn’t give a man a chance if he has cheated. I’m just hoping that somebody has had an experience where a guy did something like this and it turned out all right in the end, as in he never cheated again.

We’re both in our early twenties. I think I did something stupid because I’m young and I really want her to give me another chance because I don’t intend to ever cheat again. 
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OP, what happened?

Might the title of your question be a clue for you?  "Men" who love "a woman" but are not faithful.  Do you have two (or more) identities that you utilize; for example, one with the original GF and a different one with the AP?  Esther Perel writes and talks about how boys grow up with a lot of violence, and some (not all) survive by compartmentalizing their personalities to be accepted in their family of origin (the same can happen to/with girls as well).

https://brenebrown.com/podcast/partnerships-patterns-and-paradoxical-relationships/[/quote]

That was me.  I had a midlife affair.  It was just sex for me. Complete and utter compartmentalization as an escape from myself. I didn’t bring it home.  Out of sight out of mind.  I eventually crashed and got help.  I’m lucky my spouse didn’t leave me.  It’s the first time in my life I’m at peace with myself and who I am, I never stopped loving my spouse but now I see how my actions didn’t line up with my values and how hurtful they were.

Yes.  Someone can be unfaithful and madly love their spouse, especially as described above. I don’t believe they can do it endlessly though.  [/quote]

What kind of affair are we talking about? Passionate fling of NSA sex or emotional attachment/longer term/ILYs exchanged?[/quote]

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