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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She wanted to help.  Give her a break and include her.  Geez.[/quote]

Not OP, but NO. No one needs to have a conversation with me at 3am or prolong the whole episode by trying to “help” change the diaper and taking 5 times as long and waking the baby up fully. No no no and no. [/quote]

Agree.  It is insane to try to interact with someone in the middle of the night when you’ve been warned not to engage repeatedly.
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This is the part that many posters seem to be overlooking. MIL was warned ahead of time about the crying and nighttime routine. Then again on the first night. And second night. By getting up and asking “what’s going on?  Is everything ok?” on the third or 4th night just makes her oblivious and super annoying.

I’d be pissed too OP. And I think your husband handled it well. [/quote]

Obviously OP underestimates how disruptive the nighttime routine is. The lesson learned is stay in a hotel. People don't have to be prisoners in their own home because a baby is there.[/quote]

OP here with my final comment of the thread.

1) MIL and FIL begged us to come visit them. We warned them in advance that there is usually one wake-up a night, and we weren't sure if there might even be more because it was a new environment. They still insisted that we stay with them. They said it would be no bother, etc. So we packed up all of our stuff and drove 5 hours to see them, as they wanted. So no one was a "prisoner in their own home"--they wanted baby in their house, that's what they got.

We have ALWAYS volunteered to stay in a hotel, even before baby, and they ALWAYS insist that we stay with them. So "prisoner" nothing.

2) Per a few posters' suggestions which were very helpful, we will no longer be staying with them until baby is older and 100% STTN. They will be welcome to stay in our home, but we will once again warn them in advance, and offer to pay for a hotel if they can't handle hearing baby cry for a few minutes once a night, from two floors away in our larger house. [/quote]

Why would you ask "WWYD" when you don't seem to want to hear any input that suggests you overreacted and that your MIL isn't an evil witch? Just say you're venting instead.[/quote]

...the OP said she is [b]following a few posters' suggestions[/b] re: the hotel. Did you grasp that?[/quote]

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