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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP your responses make it clear how you feel about your MIL.  Ask yourself would you be as bitter if it were your own mother?  It's a long time you'll have this woman in your life, if you're lucky, so you'd better lose your attitude now if you want your child to have a relationship with her.  (And no, I'm not a mother in law, but a mother who couldn't stand her own mother in law.)[/quote]

My mom listens when I speak and respects my decisions. So there's that. That's what I am bothered by: we communicated before and during the trip. When someone doesn't listen to you or doesn't respect your decisions, it is irritating and hurtful.

I'm not "bitter," I am annoyed and hurt. DH felt the same way--"Why won't she listen?"

I think I'll take the PP's suggestion that we will only stay in a hotel when we visit them, and suggest they stay in a hotel if they don't want to risk hearing a little disturbance until baby is 100% STTN even on travel.[/quote]

NP - You are way overreacting.  New mom syndrome is real.  I get you want to respected and listened to, but you are in someone else's home.  If MIL gets up and asks if everything is ok and her voice is a little too loud, you need to graciously deal with it.  You are sleep deprived and probably hormonal and probably don't like your MIL very much, but this is an overreaction.  And then only staying in a hotel when you visit them next will probably hurt their feelings.  Is that really worth it?  Your husband stuck up for you, there seemed to have been a little annoyance but she's not committing abuse or crimes, so you really should just chill out.  Be kind and let it go.  You are going to create bigger problems by not being able to rationally react to your in-laws.  [/quote]

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