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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I knew I wanted marriage.  I made clear while dating that I expected a ring before we would move in together, and that’s how it happened.  We’re approaching 18 years of marriage now. But the key is that I knew what I wanted.  What is it that you want?  [/quote]

OP here. I didn’t expect to why engaged before moving in. I’ve never lived with a boyfriend before and it’s all new territory. I trust his word and how he feels about me. Now I’m not so sure. Most of my family members have been married for 20+ years, with most being married for 40+ years. I trust their opinion since they are all very happily married. Some of my friends agree and got engaged before moving in, and some didn’t feel they needed to get engaged before moving in. They both make good arguments for both sides and now I’m confused about what to do. [/quote]

I’m 35 and most people I know lived together before getting engaged. People married 20 or 40 plus years are too old to know what’s normal with our generation. [/quote]

+1. I’m 33 and this is true for me and my social circle as well. DH and I lived together for 6 years (and had a baby! and bought a house!) before we got married.[/quote]

Also 33 and lived together before engagement BUT we were 23/25 when we moved in together so we weren’t at all stressed about timing. Married at 25/27. Of my peers who moved in together later (late 20s, early 30s) most got engaged or married after. I do have one friend (33) who wants to get married and lives with her BF but he is definitely pushing off engagement. In this scenario, both she and BF are bad at communicating their expectations with each other and she hasn’t made clear that she really wants to get engaged. 
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