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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for the replies! I will just move forward with moving in without getting engaged. That was my plan all along. I’m confident we will get engaged soon. I don’t need a ring to move in. [/quote]

Good for you. [b]At those ages, he wouldn’t ask you to move in if he wasn’t planning marriage. You’re good[/b] 👍 
Come back and tell us about the proposal![/quote]

Oh my god you’re delusional. Plenty of guys move in with their girlfriends without even thinking about being married.[/quote]

It’s so funny how people assume stuff like this, when it’s actually a huge gamble.

A 35 year old guy who’s been dating for a year and hasn’t decided to propose but wants to move in sounds like a guy who’s going to drag out getting married. Moving in together makes it even easier to delay. It’s kind of sad to see her moving in thinking it means she’s going to get engaged “soon” and too scared to have a conversation about what “soon” means. After 30 this attitude is stupid. (And obviously this doesn’t apply if you don’t want to get married and have kids. But for people who do, it’s just dumb to waste time and set yourself up in a very vulnerable position.) [/quote]

Not true. I have known many couples who broke up after getting engaged and moving in. Many realized they weren’t compatible. I think living with someone before you get engaged is important. Spending nights at a partners place is not the same as living with them. Too many people rush into marriage. That’s probably why 50% of marriages end in divorce.

35 for a man isn’t old. If people stopped focusing on getting married by a certain age, that maybe will stop people from rushing into marriage.

My friends group all moved in with partners before getting engaged. We were engaged within a year of living together.

If a man doesn’t propose after you move in, he probably didn’t plan to proposing at all. Her demanding an engagement before moving in likely wouldn’t have worked. Many men will find this manipulative and like the woman is just fitting him in so she can get married.

We need to stop rushing into marriages. We need to take time to get to know each other and live together before knowing if you want to marry a person. [/quote]

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