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[quote=Anonymous]I am the default parent in that assuming no one has said anything different, I’m the one who handles anything that comes up. But my husband is perfectly capable of doing everything I do except nursing, and if I say “hey I need some time to myself” whether for household work or just to recharge, he will dive in and take over. If we’re both around I often do have to specifically delegate (“hey can you please get socks for the toddler”) but I think that’s just being efficient.

But here’s the thing — he KNOWS what a burden it is to be the default, because that’s his job at work. In the same way that I “own” the house, he “owns” his company. He’s the one who gets a message halfway through an important sales call saying Fred was in a car accident and won’t make it in so all Fred’s work needs to be reshuffled to other people, or the lease on the new office fell through, or or or… Some days he comes home saying he didn’t get anything in his to do list done because the whole thing was putting out fires. So he really does get it, and frequently tells me he appreciates it that I do all this stuff at home because just juggling everything with the constant interruptions is WORK. [/quote]

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