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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same.  It took about ten years of re-direction to make the tiniest, littlest dent in the older kid only.  It drives me bonkers.  [b]Even the pets come to me for their needs.[/b]  All of them walk right by my husband.  And part of the problem is the same where he says “In a minute” and then drags it out and upsets them and makes them feel like they can’t rely on him.  I have never found a solution to this. [/quote]

OP here and this made me laugh because yes! Same here. A persistent problem I have is these kind of "rolling needs". One of my kids will need help with something and I'll help. Then another kid will be frustrated because they had to wait while I helped the first kid to ask me a question (even though I will have said "I'm busy, go as dad"). So then I'm responding to an annoyed kid. Even if I can get the annoyed kid to go get dad to help, it's a second distraction. Then just as I'm settling back into something, my DH will show up with a question (almost certainly pertaining to the annoyed kid's issue, why can't he just solve these problems on his own). Then when I finally get everyone to leave me alone, the cat will start eating plastic, which is what he does when he needs food/attention/his litter box cleaned. Every time.

This pattern happens at least 10 times a day on the weekend. [b]Today I'm trying to do our calendar for November/December and figure out holiday travel, visits with my parents and my MIL, etc.[/b], and I just feel crazy because I have had so little time to actually do this task. It's almost 1:30 in the afternoon and I feel like all I've accomplished today is putting out everyone else's fires. My DH, however, has successfully leveled up twice on whatever stupid video game he is playing. Sigh.[/quote]

Since you know the dynamic in your house, you should definitely do this kind of task at a Starbucks or Panera or local diner or somewhere that you can sit and enjoy the task. Seriously, just leave the house![/quote]

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