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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I honestly do not think about the size or weight of a woman when I meet her. My husband does but it’s not something I ever notice or compare.  I’m too focused on the conversation. I guess I’m not a good multi-tasker. I also feel awkward and anxious socializing so maybe I’m just too distracted. Conversation is an art and a skill I don’t possess.  I’ve been skinny most of my life….until menopause. Just a little curvy now.[/quote]

Fellow skinny person who tends not to notice people's sizes that much. I don't think about mine either. I always just assume I'm average and only notice that I'm thinner than others if someone points it out. I had a friend in grad school who lost a large amount of weight (maybe 50-60 lbs I think) and I didn't really notice. I noticed she was working out a lot and had started running with her husband as a hobby. And I noticed that she was having more fun with her clothes and would compliment her on them. But I didn't actually notice the weight loss -- another friend had to point it out to me. I guess in retrospect I could see how her face was less full, but I honestly don't remember ever looking at her body closely enough to notice a difference.

And this has happened to me throughout my life. I can never tell if someone has lost 15 or 20 pounds and am always a little confused when people talk about that kind of weight loss or gain. I don't say anything and if someone is working on losing weight and is proud of their success or frustrated with how it's going, I think I am pretty good at commiserating. I can identify generally with working towards a goal or with feeling good or negative about yourself in a given moment, even if for me that's never really tied to my weight. I try to be a good supportive friend in this way but it's like I have weight blindness or something.

If friends resent me for being thin I think I would just assume they don't like something about my personality and distance myself because I wouldn't want to be around someone who didn't seem to like me. I feel like most of my friends don't care one way or the other though. They know me well enough that they wouldn't reduce me to just my weight either, just as I would never do to them.[/quote]

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