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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just do one middle name[/quote]

No one wants FOUR names.  No one.  It looks and sounds dumb.[/quote]

The ignorance of Americans is astounding.

Much of the world uses 4 names. [/quote]

If you are an American raising kids in America, then the American naming tradition should apply. What others do in other countries doesn’t matter. [/quote]

and we can all guess your politics ... 'merica. [/quote]

Not even close!

Lifelong bleeding heart liberal with a social justice warrior job in DC.

I hyphenated my last name and gave it to my kids.

That’s one commonly accepted approach in America. Another is to use the maiden name as a middle name. In the south, some traditionalists use double-barreled first names (some even hyphenate them).

It seems odd to embrace a non-American naming concept if you are American and raising kids in America where they will be using American forms based on American naming conventions.

No clue why you felt compelled to make a political assumption and inject politics into this discussion. Sadly, that speaks volumes about how far we’ve fallen into dangerous divisiveness. [/quote]

Yeah, it’s so uncool! All the cool kids have 3 names.  :roll: [/quote]

Nobody said it was cool or uncool.

It’s a societal norm, and our country’s databases are set up for 3 names. That’s just a fact. If you want to buck the system and create a potential headache for yourself and your child, go for it.

But, I’m still curious what the goal is? If you actually want the name to be used, known or live on, then you should formalize it in a traditional way accepted in the US and by US systems. Otherwise it’s likely to fall by the wayside.

Nobody will call your kid James Alexander Malcolm McKenzie Fraser. He’s just Jamie Fraser. His own kids will struggle to remember his name, and his grandchildren certainly won’t know it. What’s the point? [/quote]

Having done this I can say it has been no headache whatsoever. As for why to do it, we chose a name we loved for the first name, memorialized a dead relative with a middle name, and then made sure both parents were represented in the other two names.  The suggestion that it only makes sense if grandchildren will know it just seems bizarre to me, and the argument from societal norms/databases is just as weak.

I guess I’d say that some families choose to have a single last name as their way of showing they are a family unit this is ours— even if it mostly is nly appears on drivers licenses and passports. Personally it works better for us than having a grown woman change her name but of course ymmv.[/quote]

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