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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like how these threads always boil down to the shitty parents trying to make themselves feel better by asserting that all kids misbehave just as badly as theirs.[/quote]

Nah I get the opposite feeling - deluded parents who think they and their kids are perfect while anyone who handles complex problems differently to them are “pathetic” or “idiots” or “shitty” [sic].

In my experience, these holier than thou parents raise unimaginative and mean kids …. And the “I’m perfect and you’re an idiot” parents need help with more creative insults …[/quote]

What I get is parents sick to death of having the same conversation about phones, instagram, tik tok and other social media over and over again, and with parents who have the same excuse, “well all their friends have it” or “they’ll see it anyway.  Like stop with the lame excuses.  Kids see people drive that doesn’t mean we give them keys to a car at 11.  Kids know about sex(or should) by then also, but you’re condoning it for your kid nor are you getting them condoms and birth control yet.  If your kids friends were doing heroine would you still have the same excuse?  The reality is experts from Pediatrics, Psychology, and even Technology have said repeatedly that these things are not designed for kids and shouldn’t be used by kids. Not to mention, parents and teachers who-are already in the trenches warn folks of the dangers and drama associated.  Social media companies have created Terms and Conditions that explicitly say older than 13 or for some an adult 18yrs or older to protect them from liability. Yet still some parents keep acting like what’s the harm or there is no problem and then want to be all shocked when they see first hand the concern.

Kids will see and experience a variety of things, good and bad, with their friends and in life.  Thats part of growing up.  However, that doesn’t mean you as a parent have to provide ready access to it all.  And you certainly don’t have to condone it all.[/quote]

Again you seem to have problems grasping basic content … the primitive stereotyping of bad and good parents is silly.

Again, we held off on phone and social media until our kid was a teen and then the pandemic threw a spanner in the works. We monitor internet use and 99% of the inappropriate content alerts are related to school work - yes that’s right - school work, not porn sites. Real life is complicated and schools are trying to gently help our children to process some harsh realities. Our teen is forbidden from posting vulgar or mean content on social media. I check her camera roll and social media frequently.

No one wants their kids online all day. The pandemic meant our kids spent way more time online then anyone would like but I am grateful our kids are alive unlike many around the world who have died due to COVID. In person school starts next week, and no one is happier than me about my teen and others (hopefully) developing real life social skills again, playing sports and performing music with others  again.

OP seems like a good parent and caring person to me, and your harsh judgments on her post were unnecessary. None of us are perfect and we are all doing our best to cope during a very trying extended period of many losses.[/quote]

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