Anonymous wrote:We monitor our 11 year old’s DD’s TikTok account - yes, I’m that mom but started after she was watching insane diet tips… and for others who may point out, yes the recommended age is 13 for TikTok - but nearly all the kids have it.

Anyway, many of the dances the kids do and the music is mildly inappropriate - but 11 year olds wiggling their butts and knowing some curse words. It’s disturbing to watch at some level but mostly whatever and kids just dancing around. And the kids accounts are nearly all private so visible only among their friend groups.

But one of the latest trends seems to be lowering yourself down to a deep squat and the opening and closing your legs … And one of the girls has posted this. And it is just so inappropriate and soft porn looking. Do I tell the mom?

Anonymous wrote:i don't have kids that young; my daughter is 16 and my son is 21. But, the best you can really do is keep communication lines open in a non-judgmental way. The things my daughter tells me her "perfect angels" friends are doing behind their delusional parents' backs are really alarming. They are also none of my business and any attempt on my part to inform the parents would likely be taken with denial and hostility on the parts of both parent and teen.

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Anonymous wrote:We monitor our 11 year old’s DD’s TikTok account - yes, I’m that mom but started after she was watching insane diet tips… and for others who may point out, yes the recommended age is 13 for TikTok - but nearly all the kids have it.

Anyway, many of the dances the kids do and the music is mildly inappropriate - but 11 year olds wiggling their butts and knowing some curse words. It’s disturbing to watch at some level but mostly whatever and kids just dancing around. And the kids accounts are nearly all private so visible only among their friend groups.

But one of the latest trends seems to be lowering yourself down to a deep squat and the opening and closing your legs … And one of the girls has posted this. And it is just so inappropriate and soft porn looking. Do I tell the mom?

I am pretty sure you rolled around the floor singing Like a Virgin when you were 9 and you turned out okay.

Anonymous wrote:We monitor our 11 year old’s DD’s TikTok account - yes, I’m that mom but started after she was watching insane diet tips… and for others who may point out, yes the recommended age is 13 for TikTok - but nearly all the kids have it.

Anyway, many of the dances the kids do and the music is mildly inappropriate - but 11 year olds wiggling their butts and knowing some curse words. It’s disturbing to watch at some level but mostly whatever and kids just dancing around. And the kids accounts are nearly all private so visible only among their friend groups.

But one of the latest trends seems to be lowering yourself down to a deep squat and the opening and closing your legs … And one of the girls has posted this. And it is just so inappropriate and soft porn looking. Do I tell the mom?

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Anonymous wrote:I like how these threads always boil down to the shitty parents trying to make themselves feel better by asserting that all kids misbehave just as badly as theirs.

Nah I get the opposite feeling - deluded parents who think they and their kids are perfect while anyone who handles complex problems differently to them are “pathetic” or “idiots” or “shitty” [sic].

In my experience, these holier than thou parents raise unimaginative and mean kids …. And the “I’m perfect and you’re an idiot” parents need help with more creative insults …

What I get is parents sick to death of having the same conversation about phones, instagram, tik tok and other social media over and over again, and with parents who have the same excuse, “well all their friends have it” or “they’ll see it anyway. Like stop with the lame excuses. Kids see people drive that doesn’t mean we give them keys to a car at 11. Kids know about sex(or should) by then also, but you’re condoning it for your kid nor are you getting them condoms and birth control yet. If your kids friends were doing heroine would you still have the same excuse? The reality is experts from Pediatrics, Psychology, and even Technology have said repeatedly that these things are not designed for kids and shouldn’t be used by kids. Not to mention, parents and teachers who-are already in the trenches warn folks of the dangers and drama associated. Social media companies have created Terms and Conditions that explicitly say older than 13 or for some an adult 18yrs or older to protect them from liability. Yet still some parents keep acting like what’s the harm or there is no problem and then want to be all shocked when they see first hand the concern.

Kids will see and experience a variety of things, good and bad, with their friends and in life. Thats part of growing up. However, that doesn’t mean you as a parent have to provide ready access to it all. And you certainly don’t have to condone it all.

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Anonymous wrote:I like how these threads always boil down to the shitty parents trying to make themselves feel better by asserting that all kids misbehave just as badly as theirs.

Nah I get the opposite feeling - deluded parents who think they and their kids are perfect while anyone who handles complex problems differently to them are “pathetic” or “idiots” or “shitty” [sic].

In my experience, these holier than thou parents raise unimaginative and mean kids …. And the “I’m perfect and you’re an idiot” parents need help with more creative insults …

Anonymous wrote:Lol. You all know that your kid can sign into their accounts on other people’s phones and iPads?

Anonymous wrote:I like how these threads always boil down to the shitty parents trying to make themselves feel better by asserting that all kids misbehave just as badly as theirs.

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Anonymous wrote:I followed along - through my kid - on how a friend of his is handling the business side of tictoc. She apparently is winding down now as she is going to college this Fall. She took last year off to do tictoc and because college classes were very off last year do you covid.

Anyway, she did 3 new videos a week and grossed about $600 a video. She got started her Senior year in high school. According to my kid, they are thinking that she banked enough to pay for college. And, she will have a great resume entry forever.

So many kids are gunning to make money -- on TikTok, Twitch, YouTube etc. --and some do. Quite a bit. But there's also a lot of kids who say they are "making bank" with it that is just about as real as the age-old 'girlfriend at another school' ploy. I like that they are entrepreneurial anyway.

+1. There are influencers across all platforms making money and doing brand deals. There are way, way more wannabe influencers talking themselves up and buying followers to try and look cool.

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Anonymous wrote:I followed along - through my kid - on how a friend of his is handling the business side of tictoc. She apparently is winding down now as she is going to college this Fall. She took last year off to do tictoc and because college classes were very off last year do you covid.

Anyway, she did 3 new videos a week and grossed about $600 a video. She got started her Senior year in high school. According to my kid, they are thinking that she banked enough to pay for college. And, she will have a great resume entry forever.

So many kids are gunning to make money -- on TikTok, Twitch, YouTube etc. --and some do. Quite a bit. But there's also a lot of kids who say they are "making bank" with it that is just about as real as the age-old 'girlfriend at another school' ploy. I like that they are entrepreneurial anyway.