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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read through 4 pages of comments and am shocked only 1 other person feels this way--I wouldn't care. But I have brothers, not sisters, so perhaps there is something to a sister dynamic I (thankfully) am not subjected to as a part of life.

Can't you just explain to the sister with the little kids what you explained here? You know your sister and whether she'll get it or flip out...I guess on the flip side, is there a reason you will personally feel responsible for making sure her kids are watched so your sister has fun? That's not your responsibility. To me it sounds like perhaps there is a more complex dynamic between this particular sister and OP that has brought upon this question in the first place.

But in general, I'm truly shocked by all these responses, as it wouldn't even occur to me to be "hurt." But I'm not offended by every little thing that happens in the world around me...[/quote]

I have brothers and would also not care. But I am also a woman and have female friend groups and the same basic principal applies. If 3/4 people in a friend group get together and don't even message the other one, that is mean. Brothers it is just different. I don't even have a sister but see this. [/quote]

But she didn't say they'd all keep it a secret. OP can explain the feelings about what this sort of trip is....[/quote]

I am the PP. I have a set of four girlfriends and we've all been friends since we were 10. We don't see each other regularly, it is almost more like sisters at this point because even though we're all older and don't keep up all the time and drift in and out, we're all ride or die. No questions asked. Anyway, there is literally no explanation one of us could provide that would make sense that would include inviting three of us to something and not the fourth. It would be hurtful and exclusionary. Two of us, no problem, but three? There is no reason that would justify not even being invited. Secret, out in the open, it would be a snub, there is no other way to describe it. Also, "we just didn't want to hang out with your annoying kids" isn't actually an explanation that will make someone feel better BTW. [/quote]

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