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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly having kids should be exclusively for people who WANT to have them. On the rough days with my kids I always know how much I wanted them and that I choose to have them and I’m at peace with how hard it can be. No one should ever be put into 18 years of parenting without choosing it. If your friend knows herself well enough to think that wouldn’t work for her, I applaud her understanding of herself. I think the choice to not have kids is a harder one in many respects and people who go against the majority have probably thought about it more than people who always just wanted children. [/quote]

Yeah! On the other hand we're facing a population crisis - not enough kids being born. I think it's worth asking what is going on with our society that is making so many of us not want kids. In my case it was partly just, I didn;t want them - but if I didn't have 20 years worth of student loans to pay off, and life were cheaper and easier, I could have leaned the other way. I'm not saying it's all money money money, but we make it really hard for people to have kids in this country - some support could make it a more appealing prospect for those who are on the fence.

In short - I agree with you, and also I do worry what's going to happen when there is a teeny tiny younger generation and we, like, don't have enough food to eat because there's no one left to grow it. So I think maybe we could try to encourage more people to want to have kids, and that wouldn't be a bad thing. [/quote]

No, we aren't.  There are plenty of people on the planet -- too many, in fact.  We could solve this "crisis" with immigration.  But I agree that we make it hard for people to have kids in this country -- it's expensive as hell, and we as a society say that because having kids is a choice, it's your obligation to figure out how to pay for childcare and healthcare and retirement and education and housing all by yourself, and no one else should have to help pay for your choice.  And so many people are, quite rationally, deciding that it's too hard, and they don't feel like they can manage those things, especially with things like student debt and uncertain employment.  Add in things like climate change and other big problems in the world, and it should be no surprise that people are having fewer kids.[/quote]

I am PP - and yes, you're right. The "One Billion People!" solution would do some good. And there's going to be more migration as climate change gets worse.

Hopefully automation and robotics and that sort of thing will also help alleviate or mitigate what could happen if there aren't enough young people here to do all the things.

I think we agree about more than we disagree, in the end.[/quote]

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