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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good parenting is one of the hardest yet most rewarding jobs on the planet but it’s not for everyone. There are plenty of jobs where you ca[b]n get a B rating [/b]and do nicely but parenting isn’t one of them. Both spouses must be all in to make it really work because the ramifications of a half ass effort are awful. The joys of doing a good job are extraordinary. [/quote]

You absolutely can.

What is true of  parenting is you can get an A rating and still have a screwed-up kid.[/quote]

+1 You can do everything right and things can still turn out wrong.

Parenting is hard but I have to disagree about the rewarding part. My kids are little but I don't see any of these rewards people allude to...and I don't expect I will. It's work. Some people like it. Some people don't. I am a good parent because I love them and it is my obligation, but to me, it is not rewarding. A huge fear of mine is that they won't turn out right despite doing everything "right." It is the hardest yet most unrewarding job there is.[/quote]
+1, finding the rewards to balance the challenges is very difficult for me as well. I often feel a bit “robbed” — that people in my family/adult circle and in society at-large do NOT elucidate just how hard having kids is. The knee jerk response of “but it’s rewarding” is just more evolutionary crap to get people procreating. I make sure to tell my kids they don’t have to have children, they can build their life as they see fit and screw what anyone else thinks.

But I have also had an unengaged/unsupportive partner for almost all of the last 10 years of having kids, so take what you will from that. Perhaps rather than “so rewarding!” and “child free is unnatural” all of us would be better served to teach young people how to have talks about the realities of having children and how to ask questions of your potential partner to try to see if they would be someone worthy of parenting with. [/quote]

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