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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you would have been cool with your boyfriend going on a date with another woman to talk about dating? [/quote]

If I was dating a dad and someone he knew through his kid's activities asked him out on a "this is not a date" pretense and he outmaneuvered her like this, brought a person to turn it into not a date, talked about how happy he was with me, and told me the whole thing I would be fine with it.  [/quote]

Wow. Outmaneuvered? But why? Why go through all that when he could just say no thanks? [/quote]

He certainly could, which is why "what's if it was opposite day" is a bad premise.  But I didn't create the premise.  [b]Why women have to tread more lightly with men has been explained by 8 different people, but there are none so blind as them that will not see.[/b][/quote]

This.

NP here.  The guy didn’t ask her out on a date, he asked to meet her as a friend and is someone she sees in her social circle for her child versus it being a random person.  To be honest, he was the jerk in this scenario because he wasn’t honest that he was asking her on a date, he did zero intel if she was dating before asking her out “as friends”, and didn’t make it easy for her to say no and avoid it being awkward because of the way he asked.  In this situation it shifted the burden to your girlfriend to figure out how to let him down easy, scramble to  recruit a friend to help all while trying not to cause friction in your relationship. I mean darn, she was just minding her business and trying to watch her kid participate in the activity.  Bringing a friend to the outing was the best way to “tell him that you aren’t interested without telling him that you aren’t interested” and then she explicit told him that she is in a happy relationship to bring the point home.

Bottom line is she made sure to not put herself in a questionable situation of being alone with him or hiding anything from you and you want to be a Monday night quarterback on what she should have done differently.  If you were in a situation where you had to reject someone that had some sort of power to make your life very difficult who didn’t directly ask you out, and at no point did you meet that person one on one or hide the information from your significant other and you set the person straight on your relationship status, I don’t think you would appreciate your SO faulting you and saying you did it all wrong.[/quote]

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