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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One reason I find this weird is that I probably could have married a much richer man than I did (as in I had two serious boyfriends, both working at Biglaw firms and both from well off families) and chose not to because I was not into that lifestyle or that level of competitive materialism. Maybe here are wealthy men who aren't like that, but I never found one in DC. I think in order to be willing to do the kind of work (and the kind of hours) that allows you to have that lifestyle, you have to be interested in money and motivated by the idea of having more than others. I wasn't, and left Biglaw and also broke up with those guys when I realized we just had different values. When I met my DH, who works in government and has a very similar approach to work-life balance and finances to me, I was so happy I had held out for someone who felt like the right fit for the kind of life I wanted to lead.

I have friends with rich husbands now, including in Biglaw, and some of them are happy and some are not. They all have more money than I do, and while I occasionally envy their money (mostly around certain trips they can take that we really have to save up for), I feel confident I would not be more happy with their husbands instead of mine. My DH and I sometimes say "Oh, it would be so cool to take a trip like that to South Africa and go on a safari and stay in a luxury resort." But we'd want to do it together, not with whatever rich spouse would enable us to do so easily.

So the idea that marrying rich is an accomplishment is odd to me. Why would settling for someone I don't love as much, who doesn't share my values and doesn't want the same kind of life that I want, have been an accomplishment?

I guess it's an accomplishment if it was your goal and you achieved it. But forgive me if I'm not impressed.[/quote]

Big law is not rich. Big law is working all the time for a wage. Hedge funds, CEO’s, venture capitalists, etc are the one who become rich. We are talking millions in stock options and compensation.

Examples
Alexander Karp Palantir Technologies -$1,098,513,297 (total compensation) 
Tony Xu DoorDash- $413,669,920
Eric Wu Opendoor Technologies-$370,240,992
Leonard S. Schleifer Regeneron Pharmaceuticals- $135,350,121
Etc, etc[/quote]

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