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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He gets off the Acela at New Carrollton, and goes over to the Orange line. Then depending on the time he switches to the Silver at East Falls Church and goes to Reston, or someone comes and gets him at Vienna.  Metro is now staying open until midnight.

How on earth do you people survive in the real world.[/quote]

OP again. I also love the idea of him getting off at BWI. One of us could easily grab him there as well. SO much easier then a late night into the city[/quote]

OP, you seem really scared of DC.

When is your son taking this trip?

I suggest you and he get on the Metro and just take a trip around DC together, up till late in the evening.  Just walk around Union Station at 10 PM yourself with him.  Buy something.  Use the bathroom.  Hang out.  Then take the metro back home.  You are so petrified of what could happen, probably because of lack of experience.  SO just go with him.

I send my 14 year old daughter alone into DC on the metro!  She's a much bigger target than your 20 year old son, no matter how slight he is.  Dress smart, walk assertively, don't look like you have anything valuable to steal.[/quote]
Been to DC many times. Don’t care about daytime much. Reminds me of the guy who told his wife it was just fine to walk home from the bar in Capitol Hill at night, only to end up in a coma with severe brain damage[/quote]

It reminds me of everyone I know who said they’ll be fine taking public transportation and then they were fine.

Yes, sometimes random things happen, but like with your neighbor, they can happen in the safest places too, despite all of your anxious overprotecting. My friend had an aneurysm while feeding her horses and died before she could walk from the stable to her house. Maybe I should hover while my kids care for their pets in case something bad happens.

I’m shocked that your cousin (I think, some relative at least) offered to let your son stay the night. I can’t imagine a day trip to a bookstore being such a big deal that I’d broadcast all the planning to friends and family.

I mean this kindly. I have anxiety. It sucks. I can relate. But treating it helps and can make your life (and your family’s lives) so much better and easier. In the moment, if feels like you’re the normal one and everyone else is too loosey goosey, but you’re really setting your kids up for issues. Anxiety is one of those fun things that’s both nature and nurture, so having an anxious mom means there’s a genetic predisposition and you’re teaching him it’s better to embrace the anxiety instead of living a normal, healthy life. [/quote]

Did you pick up hitchhikers with the kids in the car when they were little? My husband used to use the anxiety line to justify this behavior. Forbidding him to go at all is anxiety. Asking him to use some common sense in traveling is something else again, given how much more crime-ridden DC has become under the guidance of Bowser. Some of our cities leadership is literally letting the inmates run the asylum.[/quote]

NP but you are not helping your son by doing all of this planning and fretting for him.  He needs to be in uncomfortable situations and new situations to get his bearings and get some street smarts.  That is really important to develop.  He is an adult, and I would worry that if you keep projecting your anxiety on to him that he will eventually distance himself from you.  I have some friends with very involved parents and they eventually kept them at arms length because they wanted to live their lives.  Let him figure this out,  it's not that hard.[/quote]

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