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[quote=Anonymous]Your father isn’t dead yet, op.  You have no guarantee the cabin won’t burn, flood, literally fall apart, or that he won’t leave it to a girlfriend or even another wife.  It isn’t yours yet.  He could even leave it to one of the siblings.. it ain’t over until it’s over.

As for your husband, I’m on his side.  He doesn’t want assetts and resources including his time (which you don’t own) going to a place he doesn’t like.  He wouldn’t be allowed to use the cabin or visit it should the two of you split up.  He’s not wrong to think of these issues.  You both would do well to talk with both a divorce lawyer and a real estate lawyer in both states so you have the best cogent current legal advice you can get.  As another poster said, I’ve never seen it end well when siblings own property together.

You do know that your brother who made poor life choices isn’t a nice person.  He didn’t choose the tuna when he would have been happier choosing the egg salad.  I wouldn’t be surprised if he picked on your husband or worse and you either minimized it or don’t know about it.  I also wouldn’t be surprised if the brother just stays at the cabin no matter who in the family owns it.  You don’t seem like the sort that would kick him out, nor could you hold him responsible even if you wanted to.  You all don’t mind his lifestyle, your husband isn’t willing to put up with it, and he’s letting you know this.

As for you donating money to the cabin, if you want to donate time and money to houses you don’t own, Habitat For Humanity is a good organization.  I’m not being snarky, if this is how you roll, find a reputable organization, not some cabin where your looser brother hangs out to do whatever activity, one that is probably one your mama and grandma wouldn’t be pleased to know about.

I also doubt that the area has remained the same.. my parents had a beach house when I was a kid.  You know what.. the old folks who were real good friends to my family are all dead now.  I still miss them.  Their kids started out caring about the properties until some got jobs across the country, some got divorced, some had looser siblings who ruined the houses, sometimes physically, sometimes emotionally.  Some realized that maintaining the houses was way more work.  Point being, I don’t buy your story about the tone of the neighborhood.  I believe that you wish it were that way, I believe that it feels that way, but that isn’t how it is.

Good luck, op.  Emotionally, I am sympathetic to you.  I miss the place my parents had.  I also know that I love the guy I married and we are making memories that are just as special.  Why not put your energy into being nice to your husband.    [/quote]

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