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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP This is not his decision it is yours.

[b]You work, why in the world is he even involved. Ladies take control of your lives.[/b]

Otherwise divorce him, [/quote]

I understand the female empowerment aspect here. But I am a male, and make about 85% of our HHI (and in many years, if was a lot more than that). My job pays for, and has paid for, virtually everything in our lives.  I am responsible for more than 80% of our retirement savings, and the only reason it's that low is that many years, my wife's entire income was dumped into retirement savings.

Does that mean I get to make all financial decisions for our family?  Of course not.

Stop talking out of your ass.  [/quote]

You are talking about making decisions because your current income is high.  That is not OPs situation.  OP is talking about the possibility of an inheritance of property using non-marital funds to take care of that property.   It is not a financial decision about the family.  It is a financial decision about her separately owned money and assets.  [/quote]

First, the bolded above oesn't make that distinction, at all.  The implication is that because OP works and has her own source of income, she makes financial decisions without her husband being involved.  Others have said the same thing, and that's ridiculous.

But regardless, I don't agree that he shouldn't be involved even if the decision only involves inherited property and funds.  Whether an inheritance remains separate property is a legal question; how it affects the family is not.  This is a decision that will greatly affect him and the the family over the years, from a time and aggravation standpoint.  And despite OP's intentions, it may involve family money - she hasn't indicated how much the renovations, maintenance and upkeep will be, and we don't know if inherited funds will cover it all (especially if the sibling can't pay his share).

He doesn't get to dictate what happens, no.  But neither is he a completely uninterested party who just needs to keep his mouth shut and go along with anything.  And FWIW, whatever his motivations, he's raised some legitimate concerns that OP should absolutely address.  
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