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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man here, he's not typical from a sexual standpoint. Most men want sex far more than once a week.  I don't know you can be so sure he doesn't watch porn - private browsing can hide stuff. Some minor red flags but if could be sexual repression from religion.[/quote]

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OP, beware when anyone says "most men want" or "most women want" about anything. Including sex. People will come here to post "but all the men I know want sex much more often than/less often than (whatever)" but that's still only a sampling of one stranger's friend group....

Surprised no one here yet (that I've seen) has suggested he might have low testosterone. He might need to be tested.

Also: Have you talked to him in a frank way about what you want from sex? Told him you want to...have it more often, try new positions, go away from the kids and have a weekend alone as a couple etc.? Talked about acts you want to try on him? You and he need to talk about your sex life, OP. Don't expect him to read your mind.

OP, I also would add--and I mean this kindly--you might sit down and think about your own ideas of what masculinity is "supposed" to look like. I read in your OP some images of what you might consider gay...attitudes? Hobbies? Behaviors? Whatever. I'm feeling a tone of "hetero men don't do this" as if maybe your upbringing or assumptions have created a particular set of things you assume telegraph "gay," when they could mean that or not. In other words, do you have (whether you realize it or not) a mental list of things you were always told or always assumed = gay? Please understand -- I am NOT calling you homophobic. I'm saying that one can be totally against homophobia, in favor of gay rights, love friends of every sexuality -- but still make assumptions about whether a person is or isn't gay. Could that be at work here? Something to consider. [/quote]

[b]I would be shocked if he had low-T. Once a week is pretty normal in a long relationship. My experience with low-T was no sex for months, then years. Weekly is normal. It sounds like they have mismatched libidos. That is it.[[/b]/quote]

This stood out to me too. 10+ years in with kids, once a week doesn't strike me as sexual dysfunction or gay. [/quote]

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