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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The reality is that men can find a replacement partner after a divorce much easier than a single mom can. I’d hesitate to divorce on the notion I can just get a new husband. At least if I’m doing all the work I can spend his money. [/quote]

+1. Exactly. But the narcissism in women today is so incredibly high due to social media use. They think they deserve another high-quality man after they dump the one they already had! Then they are shocked -- shocked! -- when men aren't interested in them at age 35+ with young kids in tow. Why would they want her when they could find an uncomplicated 29-year-old without kids to make a family of his own with? Why would he want to raise another man's kids when that dad is still in the picture? Meanwhile, the husband she left is an attractive prospect for women if he makes good money and has a great job. Women do not even consider how the typical man thinks. They just jump back into the dating scene and reality smacks them HARD.[/quote]

This isn't how I've seen it play out. My xH makes *very* good money and has a great job, especially for the area we live in (not DC). But he has a much harder time dating than I do and constantly begs me to come back.

I've had no problem finding "high quality" (physically attractive and well-off) men. But I'm not really interested in either of those. I make my own money, and looks never did much for me.

Having children has also never been a problem. Only one man has ended things because of them, and it's because he wanted a travel partner who could pick up and leave at a moments' notice.

Hell, I've attracted men [i]because[/i] I'm a divorced mom - they want a strong woman who can care for themselves, not a mooch who has little to offer besides fake eyelashes and a boob job. For sure, there are men who focus mostly on looks, but they tend to be immature and not well-equipped to care for themselves. Not a man any decent woman wants. The ones who are adults want a woman who is an adult. So no, not all men think the way you do.

I also don't feel the need to find a replacement. I'm very happy being alone and raising my kids. I have a FWB I see a couple times a month. I get good sex and don't have to cook or clean for him. If a man comes along who shares the same vision for life as I do, I'd happily commit, but for now I'm very content.

Similar scenarios have played out among my friends. The women move on and have happy lives, while the men mope around and have to scrape the bottom of the barrel to find someone. 
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