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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you see a different in what kind of parent sends their kid to daycare versus hires a nanny versus stays at home?[/quote]

Mostly class differences.

In my experience, parents who send their kids to daycare are working class, parents who have a SAHP are middle class and parents with a nanny are upper class.

A lot of the decisions with what to do for childcare depends on income, not wishes or wants, unfortunately.[/quote]

While this is true, I do know a number of very well off families that choose daycare because they think it's better. The big selling point in DC is usually language immersion. People who are really into language immersion (and so many rich parents in DC are very, very into it) have options for some Spanish and French language immersion daycares, some of which are extremely fancy with amazing field trips and specialist teachers who come in to do baby/toddler yoga and stuff. These are not typical daycares and they are very pricy, probably more comparable to a full time nanny than most centers.

Obviously lots of wealthy families will also hire nannies who do language immersion, but at that cost level it might just depend on personal preferences. Some people really don't want to have household help, or instance, or really value socialization as others have mentioned.

I do agree that SAHP is the middle class option. We are middle class and I didn't originally plan on SAHMing but like OP, my options were a pretty mediocre daycare that it was hard to imagine leaving a 3 month old baby at, or staying home for a a year or two. We made me being a SAHM for a bit work. A nice daycare or a nanny, or even a nanny share, just weren't in the cards for us financially. It was annoying to me how all our richer friends treated my decision to SAHM as some kind of fundamental belief about child rearing (like I didn't trust others to care for my baby, or had some super traditional view about babies needing to be with their mothers or something). They couldn't understand that it was just the best childcare option available to us, and that everyone usually chooses the highest quality option they can afford.[/quote]

I’m the OP.

In our area we had only a handful of immersion schools that were competitive and didn’t accept children until 18 months so many chose nannies during infancy and toddlerhood.  But immersion schools are very popular.

In my experience families prioritized bilingual/trilingual nannies.  I was hired for my first job because I was fluent in French.  Upper class parents loved it. [/quote]

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