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[quote=Anonymous]My sister did this and it’s working okay for me.  She lives in a small town where everyone knows everyone, has a very supportive husband, and works someolace very close to her home.  I’m 48 and I have three and am glad I didn’t have 4.  A few things I would not have thought of, 7 years ago:
1) the late 40s are really hard.  I feel exhausted all the time.
2) older kids are much harder than younger kids in a lot of ways.  Younger kids have fairly predictable needs and wants and there are fairly clear solutions for most issues.   It’s not hard to find good care for them because they are cute.  Older kids have a wider range of problems and wants; no one can agree on best practices; and no babysitter reall wants to watch them because tweens and teens are frankly a PITA.  Plus they have activities and want you to drive them everywhere.  My three kids are not particularly athletic and we still have sports practices basically every night plus several games per weekend in fall and spring.  So if you are thinking your older kids will be easy and you can add on a baby, think again.
3) Many SN do not manifest until K-6. Lots of parents discover in  those years that their child has dyslexia, adhd, anxiety, depression....so even kids that seem to be easy as little ones, may turn out to have significant challenges that are not yet apparent.[/quote]

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