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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Sorry, was in Zoom Hell after I posted earlier.

To explain the background, I'd say it was pretty clear they wanted nothing more to do with me. We (three women aside from me) got together every couple of months prior to my divorce (and more frequently prior to us all having babies), and on the group email where they were arranging the next meeting and "accidentally" included me, one of them said something like, "Do we still have to include (OP)?"  The others chimed in that they were fine with ghosting me, basically. One said that she didn't want that sadness around while she was trying to get pregnant again. One of the others always thought that other women were after her husband, so I guess she thought I was now a threat? Neither of these are the woman who texted me, though.
  
The PPs who discussed the various reasons that people shun their divorcing/divorced friend covered it well. I didn't respond to the group email (and they did not reply either, so I think they realized they'd included me and took the conversation elsewhere) but I reached out to them individually (text and a voicemail), and it was just radio silence, so I gave up.

I haven't responded to her yet. I want to sleep on it, but I'm definitely not going to be her divorce doula. (Thank you, PP, for this phrase - amazing!)[/quote]

This is awful, OP. I’m sorry they treated you this way.

Keep us posted on what you decide. Whether you want to call her out, send a bare minimum response or ignore it, you are in the right.

Good luck! [/quote]

Oof.  Yeah, you don't owe these folks any energy whatsoever, unless you want to dish snark at them. [/quote]

Hmm so it was the third lady, not the TTC/sadness one, and not the jealous of someone stealing her man one...so did the lady who texted you say anything on the email thread? She is probably just a follower of the other two selfish cows. Which doesn't excuse her at all. I hate moral cowards. I'm sure now she is getting the same treatment now as you did then OP. [/quote]

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