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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If only he were in VA. VA thinks that childcare and raising children in Roanoke and Arlington cost the same.[/quote]

It’s ridiculous. [/quote]

No its, not.  It goes on time share and income.  The custodial parent also has an obligation to financially support the child/ren as well.  So, that's not full support, its only Dad's share.[/quote]

This.

I find that so many people believe that child support is supposed to cover all of a child’s expenses and that’s not true. It’s just a portion. So many times women are disappointed and say they are not getting enough child support when in reality the cost of living and raising a child is higher than then realized and that they will actually need to increase their own income since now they are dependent on a single income.[/quote]

That wasn't my point. My point was that the state of Virginia treats Arlington and Roanoke the same. If you think that's equitable, fine. VA has the lowest child support rate in the DMV.[/quote]

Yes, its equitable.  Mom can choose to move to a lower cost area if she cannot afford where she is living at.  Most things in divorce, custody and child support aren't equitable.  [/quote]

Well, maybe not, but they are supposed to be; most states’ divorce laws are literally called “equitable distribution.” (NP by the way)[/quote]

So, you choose to live in an expensive area and you expect your ex to contribute more because of your personal choices.  That's not how child support works.  And, child support is supposed to cover Dad's portion as determined by the state.  Not what you want to maintain your lifestyle choices and you have an obligation to contribute as well.[/quote]

I didn’t say anything about that at all. [/quote]

You LITERALLY don't get a choice about where to live. If I moved out of the county he could fight my move. It's clear you know nothing about custody. [/quote]

He could fit it but there is a slim chance of him winning.  Be real.  You can pick up and move and then tell him and it would take a year to get through the court system and  then your attorneys would argue its too disruptive to  move the kids again and you'd win.  The visitation schedule might get adjusted or you might get ordered to meet half way but there would be no accountability for you to terminate visitation or move except for a rare judge.  [/quote]

Depends on how far you move. If it is far enough to disrupt the custody schedule my ass would be hauled to court or jail pretty quickly. Again, you over simplify the reality. I literally could not move to Roanoke with my child. This isn't a choice. I have to be near the other parent or relinquish my custody rights.[/quote]

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