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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]My bias is that I don’t like men who say that women embarras them.  That’s something I associate with children, not adults, especially adult women.  
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I’ll say though that when I saw this thread, I thought your wife would be fighting with random people over parking when nobody is guaranteed a spot like at the grocery store, or screaming at the mailman that he’d better come back tomorrow, except it’s Saturday and mailmen don’t work Sundays.

From what you describe, your wife is correct.  We just got the runaround from a blinds contractor to the point that we canceled the order and got a full refund.  My husband was annoyed with me, but I was done, once they showed up and actually told us they didn’t have time to do the work, then they reschedled, then they called to reschedule again for absolutely no reason.  It was maddening.  It took my husband awhile to figure out that I wasn’t being a bitch, I think part of this, and I’ve said this before, we rarely see our spouses as businesspeople, we marry them because they are soft and gentle with us, so we expect that they will be that way with everybody.

From my perspective, a contractor was hired, the contractor failed to show, then didn’t do the work properly when he did show.  Without hearing the conversation, I don’t know if your resolution that you’d do half the work or pick up supplies or what, but I’m on the side of your wife, if you’re paying for a full service job, then you should get full servicce experience.  The only thing you should have to do is hand the guy a check for the agreed upon price, the contractor isn’t your buddy.  Your wife knows who she married, if you could have or would have done the work, you’d not have needed a contractor.  I remind my husband of this whenever he decides to play Mr. Fix-it, or “help” the contractor by picking up supplies, I know from experience, it won’t end well.

Ditto for the daycare, they simply shouldn’t loose paperwork.  Of course it isn’t a big deal, very few things in life are, but the integrity of the system and the integrity of the process matters.  It’s like a library fine, of course anybody can aford 25 cents for a fine, that isn’t the point, the point is that we trust the libraries to handle books and information appropriately.

You seem both very eager to accomidate paid help, the contractor and daycare, and you seem very worried about things “backfiring”.  I wonder like another person if you have been abused… we no longer live in a world where you or anybody has to put up with bad behavior.  It’s not like we are pioneers with only one skilled carpenter or one skilled midwife and you’d better not piss those people off or you will literally be out in the cold forced to deliver a baby on your own.  We should be thankful for that.

I also wonder if you give grace to the help but treat your wife poorly.  Do you bite her head off if she forgets to pay a bill, then be understanding when someone you are paying looses paperwork they shouldn’t have lost.

We’ve been with covid for about a year now, nobody needs time to get used to it.  The simplicty of the form, or the amount of time it takes to fill out aren’t the point, even if you filled it out.

Going forward, make sure you show your wife more grace and concern then you do anybody else, she is the one you chose to marry.  She’s not loosing her temper when she expresses displeasure at a paid provider.  You may not like how she goes about it, but as another poster said, if you are worried the daycare will treat your kids poorly because of an email, then you haven’t been “happily sending” the kids there.

Might it be that your wife has picked up on the facd that unethical people have been hired? It’s something to think about.   [/quote]

My God, you sound really unhinged. 
That has to be one of THE longest posts I've ever read, in defense of something that you deem as "normal".

It's safe to say that you're a total control freak and a nightmare to be around... your poor family.

You need to look into getting your anxiety treated, because DAMN. 😱
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