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I’m not sure I would put myself in the category of the poster who has a therapy fund for her third child because she doesn’t want him around. I was trying to be honest that while I adore all three of my children three was harder than I thought it would be and shifted the dynamic in our family in a way I wasn’t prepared for (being an only child myself). The skiing was just one example. But things like that happen every weekend. The truth is with two working parents it is very very hard to spend individual time with each kid. I didn’t realize how hard that would be with three. There is no time machine so I’m leaning into it and trying my absolute best to give all three what they need but maybe there is a woman reading this who would benefit from my experience. [/quote]

That definitely sounds like a struggle. I know a career and 3 kids is beyond my capabilities. And I definitely think everybody deserves rest and fun in their life. My quibble is really specifically with the dcum gospel of restaurants and travel. In a way, I get it. I only have 2 kids, but our travel and restaurant life is limited mostly due to finances, and I miss it all the time. But I think it's short sighted. Most people on dcum have already been to a ton of restaurants and gone on a lot of vacations, and they can pick it right up again when their kids are older, if they're not able to do it now. Most people on this planet never go to restaurants or go on vacations anyway. Even a generation ago, it wasn't that common for families to go to restaurants and vacations all the time. This is such a recent and western, upper-middle-class value. I just personally don't feel like it's worth staking your life on.[/quote]

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