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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Regret is the wrong word but yes in a way. Our older two are 8 and 6. Things had just gotten fun. Now we need to divide and conquer. Things like skiing as a whole family will need to wait years. If given a magical time machine I probably would have stuck at two even though our third is gorgeous and sweet. It’s not about her being great or not great it’s about the whole family dynamic having shifted in a way I’m not crazy about. Honest answer here. [/quote]

That definitely sounds like less fun, but you and the other poster who "regrets" her child just make me think - you really value restaurants, skiing, and small SUV's over having a third child? Really? Those are your priorities in life?[/quote]

I’m not sure I would put myself in the category of the poster who has a therapy fund for her third child because she doesn’t want him around. I was trying to be honest that while I adore all three of my children three was harder than I thought it would be and shifted the dynamic in our family in a way I wasn’t prepared for (being an only child myself). The skiing was just one example. But things like that happen every weekend. The truth is with two working parents it is very very hard to spend individual time with each kid. I didn’t realize how hard that would be with three. There is no time machine so I’m leaning into it and trying my absolute best to give all three what they need but maybe there is a woman reading this who would benefit from my experience. [/quote]

Pp I found your post really helpful fwiw, I totally understood what you meant and am sure you adore your daughter but I appreciated your honesty and insight into the family dynamic. I’m pregnant with my second and sometimes think about a third, but am not convinced it’s right for our family - and this really struck a chord with me in helping make the decision later with eyes wide open. I’m sure when they all get a bit older there will be a lot of fun with the three dynamic and you may find your sweet spot as a family (I think and hope so!) but just chiming in to say I appreciate your post and honesty [/quote]

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