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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband's parents were alcoholics. Both recently died (not alcohol-related) - his dad just two months ago.
Since they died, he has been very odd about alcohol use. He does not drink due to his parents. However, he really never cared if I drank or not.
Lately, though, he's been incredibly judgmental and touchy. I refreshed my cocktail yesterday and he made a comment. Tonight, friends came over and he said, "Don't come in hammered!"
Just little comments. Friends came over (his friends) last week and he was weird about his friend bringing beer over...Although this is something that has happened for many years.

[b]I like to drink. I don't suffer from alcoholism. It plays no role in my life beyond a stress reliever/social lubricant from time to time. [/b]Yet now he's making all sorts of comments. I am wondering if he's maybe even tempted to drink and envious?? I don't know how to handle it. It has truly never been an issue in our relationship until his parents died.

Help??[/quote]

I think you've gotten lots of good advice. It's likely your husband has some anxiety around alcohol consumption if his parents were both alcoholics. And they just died - your post makes it sound like they were alcoholics until the end so I don't know how you can say their deaths weren't alcohol related.

In reference to the bolded above, not judging because I am currently trying to eliminate my own drinking problem, but I spent a lot of years telling myself that my higher than normal consumption was fine - I mean everyone else around me was doing it and we were all fine, right?

You reference refreshing your cocktail one night and then friends coming over with beers the next night. If alcohol consumption is a night habit then I think you should take a hard look at your drinking habits.

And talk to your husband - ask him if he feels more anxious because of parents, etc.[/quote]

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