Reply to I have to beg or ask my husband 50+ times for everything. what should I do?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "I have to beg or ask my husband 50+ times for everything. what should I do? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you listening to him.  Store the Christmas items in the garage if that is easier for you.  When you take them down just put them in the garage.  Don't discuss it.

Return the items, don't discuss it.  You don't need to be able to know about car dents to go to the shop and asked for it to be fixed.  If they charge more, well your husband makes a lot, so be it.  Get a couple of different quotes if it makes you feel better.

I have no idea why you would get an unorganised person to book flights.  It gives me a headache just thinking about it.

I understand its frustrating but being given a chore list for your days off is equally frustrating.  You are leaving everything up to him and he doesn't care, forgets, is disinterested.  So stop asking for permission and just do what you need to do, you are an adult.

If your kids are young, not decorating for Christmas to make a point to your husband is yucky.  Christmas is special for kids, its about them, don't ruin it for them.

I don't see how you can't get into the attic and move smaller items if need be rather than the whole lot at once.  It really can't be that hard.

If it takes more time doing these things, then perhaps dinner may need to be take out.  Perhaps you don't have time to do his laundry or some other task you may do.  There are only so many hours in the day, if you need to spend time on that, let something else unimportant slide.[/quote]

It’s mostly an issue that with 2 young kids, I am completely mentally burned out at the mental and physical load of raising a family. I get frustrated that he can’t *think* about anything. Like it wouldn’t even cross his mind to set up a christmas tree, even on Xmas eve. Everything is done last minute with no consideration. If I didn’t plan the whole thanksgiving we would be eating frozen pizza. He just takes zero initiative for anything and doesn’t realize the hundreds and hundreds of daily considerations and decisions that need to be made with kids. If I died my kids would never go to the dentist again. [/quote]

I'm so sorry.  It does sound exhausting, draining and frustrating.  I just don't think he is going to change which is why I wrote what I did.  I would be working out what needs to be done and letting other stuff go (perhaps errands you do for him) as well as outsourcing.  The kids aren't going to be young forever so give yourself a break during these years.

Stop arguing with him.  That's only wasting energy.  Who cares if he doesn't want to return items, don't say anything.  Just pack it up and return it.  Job done.  That is so much easier than it lying around and arguing about it and then getting frustrated about it.  I would outsource as well.  Don't ask, just do it.

Honestly this is why I think people end up divorcing, the years of resentment built up by him being so useless.  Only you can change something because he isn't going to do anything differently.  I hope in a couple of years when the kids are older, things get easier for you.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics