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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As I said I am not leaving unless forced or somehow can’t handle the situation till my oldest graduates high school. I will feel better as well knowing for sure it’s the right decision. I am not that young and a couple of years likely won’t matter in the long run. I will look for a better therapist and ask him the questions posted here. Lots of people leave their spouses after a child leaves the house. It wouldn’t be that awkward then either. [/quote]

As one who took about 2.5 years to go thru therapy w/ my cheating DH, I want to warn you how much psychic damage staying causes you. The constant lies, gaslighting and manipulation are very disorienting. Protecting myself from his behavior was a major emotional and time suck.

Then there was figuring out how to not sleep with him without stirring up retaliation.  By that time I knew what he told me about the initial infidelity was a lie and I knew that he was continuing to cheat. I thought I could get out of sleeping with him and cut it down to something minimal like once a month. I thought I could handle sex with him if it was minimal, but honestly it felt very rape-y and unsafe.

I was finally able to tell him to leave, but the truth is I should have done it much sooner - as soon as the first few months when it was clear that he really didn’t have and wasn’t willing to develop the insight as to why he was cheating.

You may feel that your child will be able to handle it better after Hs is done, but many children whose parents divorce after HS feel betrayed, like they grew up in a lie. They have a hard time forming romantic relationships and often drift from their parents.

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Yep. Right here. The only regrets I hear are the people who wasted money on trying to fix things. Rip the band aid off and kick them to the curb ASAP. [/quote]

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